Thursday, 12 October 2017

Get To Know Me! :)

Hello, happy to see you here! Since my audience have recently grown a little, I thought I would tell you more about myself, so you can get to know me better. I chose some questions from the 'Get to know me TAG', and I am here today to share my answers with you! 

Do you have any pets? 

I do, indeed! I have a cat called Malus. She is 4 years old. Absolutely gorgeous, independant and brave. And fluffy!

Are you named after anyone? 
Yes, after my favourite aunt (my mum's sister). My older sister chose it for me. 

What is your favourite quote? 
"A ship in harbor is safe- but that is not what ships are built for."- John A. Shedd

  • Do you have a tattoo? 
  • I do not. Love them on others, but I can not imagince myself having a tattoo just yet.

  • How many languages do you speak?
  • I speak Polish and English fluently. I can communicate in Russian, German and Persian. 

  • What are your favourite books of all time?
  • I have read hundreds, if not thousands of books in my life. There are four, though, which really stood out for me. I read each of them at least of 5 times. And I am not done reading them yet!

  • 'Matilda' by Roald Dahl                        
  • I have fallen in love with this book 21 years ago! It was the first 'real' book that I have read in my life. I promise that I knew some major parts of it by heart. I loved Matilda and I could really identify with her. I was always acting older than my age. Matilda was bold and brave little feminist. A 4-year-old role model to a 4-year-old me. I have recently read it at loud for my son in English, and he really enjoyed listening to it. And I was so happy to be reunited with my hero Matilda.

  • 'Primeval and Other times' ('Prawiek i inne czasy') by Olga Tokarczuk 
  • Olga Tokarczuk is phenomenal Polish writer. The world that she creates in her books is just magical. I love her characters, they are multidimensional and interesting. If you have never read any of her books, start with 'Primeval and Other times.' You will fall in love with her writing from the first page!

  • 'The Unbearable Lightness of Being' Milan Kundera
  • A classic. Lightness and heaviness, body and soul, love and sex. The only life that we have to live is so light, and the decisions we make, are so meaningless. This makes our existence unbearable. Not an easy and pleasing book to read, but a great one. 

  • 'Next to Heaven' / 'Next Stop–Paradise' -"Nastepny do raju' Marek Hlasko
  • Yet another Polish writer on my list. 'Next to Heaven' is a book about a group of van drivers, working in the mountains in Poland. In other words, it is a book about loneliness and apathy of young men facing the difficulties of living in a communist country. 
  • Marek Hlasko was a rebellious and unpredictable, but very gifted artist. His writing was very raw, bold and unashamed.
  • He died at 35, and the circumstances of his death remain unknown.

  • What is your favourite drink?
  • Water, freshly squeezed orange juice, black tea with lemon. I hardly ever drink coffee.

  • What is your favourite TV series of all time?
  • 'Grace and Frankie' - (Netflix), the most hilarious, uplifting and heart-warming series ever. You can read the full review here;    

  • 'Prison Break'- one of the best series ever made. Written to perfection gripping TV drama. A story about lawlessness, brotherhood, hope and courage.Well deserved international success. I can not wait for the 6th season!

  • What is your favourite food? 
  • Baked vegetables (potatoes and courgette are my favourite), millet pudding, vegan pastas and fresh fruits. 

  • Favourite memory from childhood? 
  • The time I got to spend with my maternal grandparents. They were the most caring, loving people I have ever known. 

  • What was the first concert you ever attended? When I was 5 we went to see the gig of Just 5. It was a polish boysband, very popular in the 90s. I was beyond obsessed with them, and I had a crushon one of the guys (like pretty much all polish girls back then haha). After the gig, we went to get the autographs. 
  • My dad spent a good minute introducing me to the guy, telling him how much I loved him. But I wasn't there to shake his hand- I escaped! I was too shy to look into his eyes!

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    Saturday, 7 October 2017

    The best drugstore & cruelty-free cream eyeshadow- Kiko Cream Crush Lasting Colour Eyeshadow in the shade 05 Pearly Silver Rose

    When it comes to eyeshadows, I much prefer powders to creams. Cream eyeshadows can be difficult to work with. Most of them are either too runny, or too dry. Luckily, I have found not only the formula but also the colour that I was looking for. Check out this beauty from Kiko! It is the gorgeous Cream Crush Lasting Colour Eyeshadow in the shade 05 Pearly Silver Rose. It's an affordable and cruelty-free cream eyeshadow that you need in your life!

    The Kiko Cream Crush Lasting Colour Eyeshadow in the shade 05 Pearly Silver is a light, warm brown with a sparkling silver sheen. It is not the traditional, boring and hard to pull off silver. It is very wearable and looks great on my dark brown eyes! It will suit not only cool-toned and neutral complexions but also the warm-toned.
    It is very easy to apply thanks to its rich colour and velvety texture. It doesn't crease while drying down. Once blended, stays put for many hours. It lasts on my eyelids the whole day. It doesn't smudge nor flake.

    It is hard to believe that an affordable but high-quality beauty product like this isn't a best seller yet! It is stunning, and it looks very elegant on the eyes. When it comes to the quality, it beats its higher-end brothers! And it retails for only £6,90.
    It comes in a sleek and sturdy glass jar with a plastic lid. It contains 4.0 g/ 0.14 OZ of product.
    I always take it with me when I travel. I usually blend my bronzer into the crease of my eye, apply the Cream Crush  Lasting Colour Eyshadow in the shade no 5 all over my lid and do a wing liner with my brow pomade. This is my favourite, effortless eye look on the go! 

    What is your favourite cream eyeshadow? Do you use them at all? Share your thoughts in the comments below. Thanks for reading! x


    Thursday, 28 September 2017

    Happy HNB- How to raise a happy child?

    All of us, parents, always say: I want my child to be happy and healthy. Awesome! We wish the best things for our offspring. But how many of us actually realise that us-parents are capable of making our children happy? We say that times are tough. Well, they always were. Raising a happy child is not as difficult, as many of us think. Forget about the politics, electric bill, the price of petrol, noisy neighbour. Don't leave everything to the 'luck'. So, if you want to know how to raise a happy child, keep on reading. 

    Make a habit of talking to your child about everything. Start as early as possible (preferably when you're still pregnant). If you don't know what topic to pick, start from something as simple as describing the weather, the room you are in, your mood. In the future, there won't be a subject you will feel ashamed to discuss with your kids.
    Always be there for your child. When he cries, take him to your shoulders. Listen, when he talks.
    Give him your attention. Put your smartphone down for a minute and enjoy being with your kid.
    Kiss and cuddle. You both need it. And, trust me, you will miss it once he grows up.
    Teach your child to identify and name the feelings. This is a core of a good relationship and a happy life.
    Share your hobbies with your child. This will not only bond you with him but also add a new dynamic to your relationship. 

    Nobody can be happy when feeling anxious.
    Stay calm, even though sometimes it is difficult. Try meditation, take a deep breath. In the heat of the moment think about what you are grateful for or why you love your child. This will help you to calm down immediately.
    Ensure your child is growing up in a calm environment. Turn the TV off, ask other family members not to shout or make unnecessary noise (like slamming the doors or shouting).
    Never threaten your child to leave him behind. I don't think any explanation is needed here.
    Read about the separation anxiety. This will help you to understand your baby better.
    Do not let your child cry out. Never! This infamous, old-fashioned method ruins baby's mental health. You can read more about it here.
    Breastfeed, if you can. It will help you to deal with baby blues and postnatal depression, and it will make your baby feel safe. It can be difficult at the very beginning, so do your research when you're pregnant. The more you know, the easier it gets. Breastfeeding is a real lifesaver for me. It helped me on countless occasions. 
    Most of the babies like being swaddled. Baby slings/ wraps will make your baby feel safe and your hands-free.And when your baby is able to sit, you can switch to a baby carrier. 

    Play with your child. There are so many cool games you can play together. From the good old hide and seek, to painting, making a puppet theatre, reading together or writing stories. 
    Smile to him! Nobody enjoys staring at grumpy faces. And remember that your child is your mirror. The happier you are, the happier he is.
    Explore the world together. From watching the mum bird feeding her brood, to climbing mountains. If he wakes up at dawn and cannot sleep, watch your town wake up instead of watching cartoons. Do it together.                   
    Practice gratitude. Ungrateful people will never be happy. Here you can read more about the power of gratitude.

    He might be little, but he is a human. He has his needs, his opinions and feelings. Respect them! We all know how horrible beating children is. But we do not talk enough about all sorts of emotional abuse. Forcing kids to eat, constant criticising, bullying. These things happen in most of the households. 

    Let him make mistakes. We all make them! Do not expect perfection, but praise his efforts. Say compliments and give him unconditional love. Support his growth. Learn to give him feedback instead of criticising. Self-discipline is a key to success. Teach him that.

    Does he want to brush his own hair? Help you to bake? Choose his own outfit? Let him do it. These days some adults can not prepare a simple meal from scratch. Scary!

    Last, but certainly not least. Do not forget about yourself. Being a mother, or being a parent in general, is forever. Your child is important, but you are too! Do your blood checks, remember to hydrate and nutrition your body.  Have your own hobbies, chase your dreams! You deserve it. 

    Parenthood is a beautiful, beautiful journey. Enjoy every second of it! 


    Thursday, 21 September 2017

    HAPPY HNB- The beauty of a High Need Baby

    OK, last week I allowed myself to publicly speak aloud about the challenges and the difficulties I face every day as HNB's mum. Today, though, I will tell you all what I love about being a mother of an unstoppable, hyperactive and superalert one-year-old boy.

    My HNB is a very people-person. He loves to be in the centre of attention. He is brave, he likes to meet new people, and interact with them. He enjoys spending time with other babies. And what I am so happy about- other kids like him, too! A group of children always surrounds him in the playground and in the playgroups.

    He is so sweet and kind that it literally melts my heart. He shows us his love in the most beautiful way. I die when he strokes my face in the morning. He feeds us his food with the cutest smile on his face. And he loves animals! I have mentioned his obsession with cats a thousand times. He is so gentle with our Malus. He always treats her with respect. a man who loves animals is certainly a good person!

    All babies do funny and cute things. But Kian is the one that always deliberately makes us laugh. He realizes what is funny to us, and he just keeps doing it. He is such a sweetheart!

    I am not sure if this was ever proven by scientists, but from my observation as well as from what others say, High Need Babies are very intelligent. My son is definitely the brightest one-year-old I have ever seen ( I am not trying to brag or to say he is a genius, but #mamaisproud). He is a very, very quick learner. We speak three languages at home, and he not only understands most of what we say to him, but he already uses around 25 words (knowing what they mean) and starts to connect them into 2-3 words long sentences.

    Happy HNB is a new series on my blog! Check back for a new post every Thursday at 6 PM UK time! :) Thanks for reading! x

    Sunday, 17 September 2017

    Happy HNB- the challenges

    Being a mother is a beautiful, yet stressful experience. Being a mum of a high need baby is ten times more intense than that! Today I am here to tell you all about the struggles and the challenges I face every day as a mum of a hyperactive one-year-old. 

    Please bear in mind, that I am not complaining 😃 My HNB is a happy one. One, who loves to laugh and make others laugh. He is just the sweetest kid on the planet. But, girl, try to get him to stay in one position. Impossible! 

    Something as simple as nappy change can take 20 minutes, or half an hour. This is when the hyperactive side of my son's personality wakes up.
    It is the same with changing his outfit. Socks? Shoes? Forget about them!  A hat is also a no-no. 

    I am incredibly lucky because my son loves to eat. He is very excited about trying new dishes. However, he does not like to sit in his chair. As he is over one year now, he gets 5 meals per day. Guess how many times a day do I wash the carpet?

    Kian doesn't like playing on his own. He loves to have people around him all the time. Even though I absolutely treasure the time we spent together, I also need to do housework. I always try to do the most important stuff in the morning (you can read more about our morning routine here) and cook many meals at the same time. Sometimes, though, he just needs to be next to me. And this is when a baby carrier comes in handy! 

    And here, I have got to repeat what I have already said. The baby carrier is a lifesaver! My son can not stand sitting in a pushchair for longer than 10-15 min.  That's why I always have my Manduca on me. It allows me to go out of the house more and for longer than normal.

    I am not the only one who realized that high need babies are usually much more alert and intelligent than other kids. I am always worried if I do enough to support his mental growth.

    As a mum of a hyperactive babyI have a very little time to recharge my batteries. My son moves faster than other kids, that's why I need to have eyes in the back of my head at all time. This is a constant, day and night look-out. I wouldn't say that I am physically tired because I am used to hard work and lack of sleep. But this kind of responsibility can be mentally draining.

    If you're wondering if there are any pros of being a mum of an HNB- yes, absolutely! I will write about it more in my next post (be sure to check it out on Thursday 21/09 at 6 PM UK time 😃). Thanks for sticking by! x

    how having a high need baby changed my life

    Thursday, 7 September 2017

    Happy HNB- Our Mornings

    The insistent sound of alarm clock used to wake me up at 4 AM every day for way too many years.  It's been a year since a hand of tiny human touches my face to wake me up every morning. I love it. His hand is warm, and I can feel the life pulsating in his veins. The life that I have given him!  I open my eyes, and the first thing I see is the sweetest face in the whole world! These smiley black eyes, tiny plump lips, and those round cheeks that make my heart melt.

    No alarm clock needed.

    The 'kisses and cuddles' time is the part of the day I praise the most. They don't last too long, though. My son then says three words, to indicate that a new day has just begun. 'Bah' (this is how Persian kids call 'food'), 'tata' (which means 'daddy' in Polish. 've got to confirm that yes, daddy left for work already), and 'Malus' (name of our cat). Yes, we will see the cat. And this is when the fun and crazy part of the day starts 😄

    Getting changed is probably our least favourite thing to do. Kian absolutely hates it, even though I always try to make it fun for him. But since he knows that there are better things to do out there, he doesn't want to waste even a minute on putting clothes on.  :) Luckily, he likes washing face and hands a little bit more. But, obviously, it can not take any longer than 20 seconds! 


    My son absolutely loves food. He is not picky nor fussy at all. I am incredibly lucky that he really likes all kinds of fruits, vegetables, and groats. He will happily eat all of them- under one condition, though. They need to be served right away :) Patience is not an HNB's strength
    If you're a mum of High Need Baby, you 've got to have a good plan in your head. And preferably on a paper, too. 
    Not that he will stick to a routine or a plan. But you just need to stay as organised as possible. What I like to do, is to plan my day the night before so I can kick start my day without having to waste my time in the morning.I know what dishes I need to prepare for us, if I need to urgently run some errands and if I have any deep cleaning planned for a day. I like to do all of the important and boring stuff in the morning. So, when my son eats his breakfast, I usually do meal preps for the whole day, I clean the kitchen and washing up. Then it's a time to brush the teeth, feed the cat, read some books and hoover. I have got to wait with hoovering for Kian, because he absolutely loves 'helping' with it :) And this way, most of the house stuff is done by 9:30- 10:00 AM. This really helps me to stay calm for the rest of the day and enjoy spending my time with my son.

    A year ago today I became a mother. Thank you, Kian for being in my life. You make me a better and happier person every day 💓💓💓

    Thursday, 31 August 2017

    Happy HNB- meeting my High Need Baby, lack of sleep and our first month together

    Hi. Welcome to the world of a mother of a super high need baby. The fastest, the least tired, the most alert baby ever. The crawling happiness and my best friend.

    Who is a High Need Baby? It is a baby that may be considered 'difficult' by others. One who demands constant attention, who is never tired and likes to hang out on the boob for hours and hours. Baby, who doesn't need much sleep. But you know what? These kids are incredible! They don't just smile from far away, patiently waiting for cuddles. They wake up and say: Hello! I am here. Appreciate me.


    Our first meeting was quite shocking. I thought my son would be exhausted after the labour and sleep most of the time. Trust me, we were the loudest family in the postnatal room. Sometimes I cried when my son cried. Other kids were asleep, and their mums couldn't get them to wake up for feed. Mine would never sleep. He needed me non-stop. I was a patient myself, attached to a disgusting drop (which was broken and I had to keep my hand in a funny position in order to make it work). Plus, the beginning of breastfeeding was difficult. If you know how to latch the baby straight away-praise the Lord!
    I had bleeding nipples and a baby on the boob for 24/7. It was difficult. During the first month, I was feeding my son for about 20h a day. With short breaks for a nappy change, bath or a quick walk in the park. It is normal. It's called the 4th trimester. But everybody around me was constantly making me feel like there was something wrong with my baby or that I simply couldn't cope with motherhood. 
    The zero sleep thing was shocking. I was surprised that a baby who just arrived in crazy, unknown world is not tired!

    Happy HNB is a new series on my blog! Check back for a new post every Thursday at 6 PM UK time! :) 


    We came back home, where a beautiful and cozy Moses basket was ready to go. But Kian just wouldn't sleep in it! He would wake up every 3-15 minutes. As I could not keep my eyes open anymore, I gave up on this idea and we started co-sleeping (it is amazing, but remember to stick to the safety rules).
    I wanted to be one of the cool mums, so I bought all kinds of wraps and baby sleeping bags in gorgeous prints. He hated all of them. 

    How did I survive the first month?
    first of all, I gave up everything to look after my son. You may say I'm crazy (I know, I know- 'happy mother is happy baby'). After I left the hospital, I stopped getting upset that I can not plan/ control the day. I acknowledged that this is how my life will look like for the next 2-3 months. And I started to learn my baby's language, rather than trying to get a newborn to understand mine. 
    This was a happy moment for me. Even though to others I looked like I have fought in MMA (the mad combination of zero sleep, huge responsibility, pressure and bleeding nipples did not make me look cute at all 😀).
    I concentrated as much as possible on comforting Kian with breastfeeding. Because mum's breast is much more than just food. It is baby's safety, comfort and happiness. 

    Since we were glued to each other for over 20h a day, we developed not only the most beautiful love but an amazing friendship, too! We created a strong unbreakable bond, that will last forever. He knows that I will never let him down and I 'll comfort him in any pain. It is so rewarding! 

    In the past year, I have heard from many people that Kian is the happiest child they have ever seen. I could not be more grateful for having him in my life.

    Growing up a High Need Baby can be very difficult if you try to change his nature. You have to acknowledge that you are your child's whole world. 
    Remember, that one of the worst things you can do to your baby is to follow the infamous 'cry it out method'. You can read more about the heartbreaking consequences of this torture-training here. 

    Tuesday, 8 August 2017

    Money Talk. All about my wealth

    Thanks for stopping by! So today I want to tell you all about my wealth and how it is possible that a 25-year-old girl owns so much stuff. If you want to know where my money came from, keep on reading :)

    'The vulture and the little girl' by Kevin Carter, 1993

    Seen this photo before? It is called 'The vulture and the little girl'. What can you see when you look at it? I see a vulture waiting for a little girl to die so he can eat her.

    Let me tell you this story in a nutshell.
    The photo was taken by a South African photojournalist called Kevin Carter. He flew to South Sudan during the second Sudanese civil war in 1993.  He joined the United Nations and was there to document a starvation caused by the war.  
    Anyways. He saw a girl who was struggling to crawl to the food centre. STRUGGLING TO CRAWL TO THE FOOD CENTRE! I don't think I will ever get over those words. Seeing this photography for the first time a few years ago was the most humbling experience of my life. The most heartbreaking, unfair, traumatic and painful thing I ever saw. Kevin Carter waited for a perfect moment to take a photo, he took it, drove the vulture away and left. Did you know that he committed suicide a few months later? Many of you may ask why he did not help her. He was actually told not to touch anybody for fear of spreading disease. 

    What have we done to this world? All of us here, in the first world countries? They suffer, so we can be relaxed living our 'happy' lives and keep buying stuff, thinking we buy happiness Don't even try to say that Africa is poor.  Nothing could be further from the truth. Africa has actually a huge quantity of natural sources, including gold, silver, diamonds, salt, petroleum and much more. 

    Look at that girl!  Look at her sense of survival.  I can not stop wondering what her name was and how old she was. I am wondering if she knew what happiness was and if she ever laughed. She died on her way to the food centre. Or maybe a second after she got there. What was she supposed to receive in there? A sip of water? A handful of rice? A corncob? 

    So, now I 'll tell you about my wealth. That's why we all are here, right?

    I have two legs and two hands. I can talk, therefore communicate. I can see and hear. And I can smell. I have a roof over my head. Clean water in the tap. Toilet. I have a fridge full of fresh food. And a freezer filled to the brim, if I  run out of fresh stuff. My son has hundreds of clothes, toys and books. We spend hours reading them together. We have a car. Clean and safe. And a cat who leaves tonnes of fluffy fur behind. I have a soft carpet underneath my feet, so they are never cold.
    We are healthy, and we have free medical services available just a call away. I have a bookshelf filled with books. And a big lipstick collection. I believe that they make me look prettier. But do they really? 
    My son crawls around the flat and laughs a lot.  The healthy breast milk is just one smile away from him. But sometimes when I watch him crawling, I see this poor girl instead. And I wonder how many kids have died so mine can live a wealthy life in a clean and modern country.
    Yes, wealthy life. You may think that I am just a working class girl. how can I talk about wealth? well, I am wealthy. And you are, too. Stop for a second and think what you are grateful for today. And repeat it. Everyday.


    Wednesday, 26 July 2017

    A letter to my Son- Courage

    My Dearest Son,

    in everyday life, you need a lot of courage. You need to be brave to ride a bicycle for the first time. Put that helmet on, hold the handles firmly, put your feet on pedals, and go. Even if you fall once, twice or ten times. Stand up. Have the courage to face this challenge again tomorrow. Nothing feels better that victory after you were about to quit.

    You need to have the courage to speak up your mind. If all your friends love football, but you prefer tennis- say it at loud. If you're not a fan of computer games- say it out loud. If you don't want to smoke that cigarette, drink that beer or smoke that skunk- say it out loud. You need the courage to be different than others. Well, we all are different, so do not compare yourself to others. There will be always somebody younger and somebody older than you, taller and shorter. Slimmer and fatter. Richer and poorer. Just be the best version of yourself.

    Have the courage to be a good person. Protect the ones who can not protect themselves. Share. Share your love, your food, your belongings with those, who have less. Never turn your head away from hunger and poverty. Have the courage to love whoever you want. But allow this love to grow organically and care about it a lot.
    Have the courage to chase your dreams. Even the biggest, the craziest, the ones which seem unreal.

    And never stop dreaming.

    'It's tough' you may think. 'What about a fear'? Fear is a part of human life. It will always exist. Accept it and learn to live with it.

    In the moment of hesitation, remember that I decided to bring you to this world because I was certain that you will be brave enough to live your life to the fullest. I hope I did give you all of the tools needed.

    Courage is the secret of life. It is what freedom is made of. And only a brave man will be free.

    My Love, have the courage to say to me 'stop' when I treat you unfair. I hope I'll never will, but please- do. And encourage me to have the courage to be myself forever. I love you!

    Mum x


    Friday, 21 July 2017

    My favourite summer vegan perfume! 'Tahitian Gardenia' by Pacifica

    The sense of smell is very underestimated. It clearly isn't as important in our life as vision or hearing are, but this sense can take us on a journey to a different world. I truly believe that scents can determine our mood and feelings. Some of them are uplifting, some relaxing. Some rather depressing 😃
    I love perfumes and the magic they ooze around people.  I am extremely sensitive though! Most of the mainstream fragrances give me headaches or make me nauseous. Or both! A bad smell can really ruin my mood. Not to mention that a vast majority of perfumes is not cruelty-free!
    Finding a delicious, unique cruelty-free or vegan scent very is tough. Luckily, Pacifica is ready to accommodate a client like me!

    As Pacifica's products aren't very widely available in the UK, (except some online stores and selected Holland and Barett branches) I have purchased the Tahitian Gardenia perfume online. Without giving it a sniff before (what a risk 😁). As soon as the perfume arrived, I fell in love with it!
    It is an exotic combination of Jasmine, Sweet Orange, Tea Leaves and Ylang Ylang. The first thing that comes to my mind, when I smell it, is a group of hippies dancing in Tahiti. Yes, Frankie is there, too! It is a scent of happiness, joy, relax, and freedom. Floral with a bit of citrusy zest to it, too. It's fun and elegance in one!
    The bottle really represents the scent very well. It's pretty, it's fun and it is quite small so easy to store. The longevity of Tahitian Gardenia is decent (it lasts around 5h on me). I wish it was a bit more long-lasting, but for its price (£20 for 29 ml) is great.
    This certainly is my new favourite summer fragrance!

    I am excited to check out more Pacifica products in the future, especially their perfumes!
    What is your favourite vegan or cruelty free fragrance? comment down below. Thanks for reading! x

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